Nehya, You are my fantasy..SRK! hahahaha
A Man's FantasyYou can dream about that special person you are with or you can fantasize about material things.. The question that I pose to you all is............
Is Fantasizing or dreaming about another man/girl cheating??
This question can be answered in several ways.. I see it from my point of view and I have seen it from the point of view of a man! I have to say men have a way of turning things around, that make you really think you are the CHEATER. But, are you the one that is really being cheated on? Can you or are you really giving (the men) the fantasies that they really want to have? (married and or your relationship, if it is a intimate one)
I also heard that women cheat a lot more than men do, because we have I guess "more fantasies" than they do..I guess it is lack of what is being done that makes us drift off to fantasy land sometimes....
Fantasies are harmless, unless you are laying in the bed with your wife or hubby and you are dreaming of what you can do with someone other than the person that you are with... I have to say again!! FANTASIES are HARMLESS!!! EVERYONE does it....
I asked my dad about the fantasies also, he said to him, women control the fantasies.. Even if a man has a fantasy and it involves having a garage full of tools... only the woman can give into the fantasy and allow it to happen, he said that women seem to have the upper hand in real life as well as a Fantasy based one! (dad is so intelligent!) but that is not always the case...
Can fantasies lead to a break up, divorce or just plain anger and strain a relationship? Is there really any harm in fantasies? Is having that one special fantasy really considered Cheating? Does it matter who really cheats more? cause cheating is just what it is CHEATING! Can that fantasy bring out more in a relationship? Why do men cheat? (yeah I threw that on in there)
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27 comments:
we've alrdy had our argument abt this...so m jus gonna wait n see wat others have to say...
btw like ur new template :)
men cheat because its in their systems! it just comes naturally to them i think! ;)
n SRK?? have i not introduced u to john n ranbir blondie??? u've really got to pay more attention to my blog woman! go gawk at my new post again! :P ;D
ps: n green is my current fav colour..so m looooooooving ur template! :D
Fantasies are just dreams, they aren't cheating. There are very few people, male or female, who don't have fantasies.
As for cheating itself? Women are just as likely to cheat as men. But, even when women cheat, it's still the man's fault. I know this cause Oprah told me it's so. hahaha ;-)
ok this cannot b a reason for cheating but some psychos do take it as one.
i find it quite unreal but wht can i say people and their thoughts have always clashed mine!!!
Mayz, Thank you for the template compliment and yes, you and I have had our argument, is it time to make up yet? lol
Trinaa: I have not learned yet have I.. BUT in my defense SRK is like a HUGE Turn-on since I saw KKHH! lol sorry! introduce me to another Knight, that you don't have the hots for! hahahah
oh and ummmm ^5
Jay: A HUGE ((((((HUG)))) for you! I have to agree Everyone has fantasies, one has to learn to control them before they go over board!
I am not a Oprah fan! But she taught you well about men cheating! I say you are a perfect catch!!
Miss ya!
I found your blog, this is great I read many of them but I am only going to spew my great criticisms on this post.
You are telling me that something is wrong with fantasizing? If so I have to tell you that you are wrong. I have had many fantasies mostly when I am dreaming. I have never had problems with controlling my relationship and my fantasies.
Women are big cheaters, they just get away with it more than men do, because you women can be so sneaky, just asked me I just got rid of one of them.
It your fantasies add some fire to the magic room in the house I say go for it, if it fucks up the relationship I say dump the person and find you someone that appreciates you because evidently that person that cheated did not.
I guess I am going to see you at work on Monday right? or are you taking Mon and Tues off?
Jackson
Amer. Desi: I clash also when it comes to others thoughts on relationships. Some people really do let fantasies ruin their life.
As far as cheating... DON'T GET ME STARTED! lol
Thanks for stopping by!
Jackson, You did make it..I only had to spell it out to you like 4 times, then you messed up my commenting by cutting in! hahahah
I am NOT saying that there is something wrong with fantasizing, you got me wrong there partner!
Women being big cheaters, I cannot agree or disagree, I just make sure I am NOT considered a cheater.. I believe in being faithful, and If I feel I need to leave, I let them know.
Men(some) cheat because they have nothing better do to, so they get bored and want to try something else out, then expect to be able to come back home... like they never wanted to leave but someone forced them!
If the bedroom is the magic place,and if the couple feels as if they want their fantasies to become real let them!!
OH and I am coming to work on Monday, I took Tuesday off!
Come back Jackson, I like seeing you view on this! Soooo see ya Monday!!
Ne
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm...
hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm..
If I let my brain open people try to lock me up.
So.
If anyone asks, I've just been lobotomized so I can't have fantasies.
Nirmal, you don't comment unless we are talking about Diamonds! hahaha How is NYC treating you?
I Miss ya!
Mike, I can only imagine some of the fantasies that you be having! hahahaha
It is kinda good that you cannot, your mind is like FAR OUT THERE!!
Is Fantasizing or dreaming about another man/girl cheating??
Well .... It depends upon where you draw the line b/w fantasies AND reality....They can ruin a relation/marriage or whatever ....if it doesn't go down well with it ...
Personally speaking, I believe fantasies occur with everybody ....Men or Women...It is how you deal with it ... I have a certain amount of space which I can give to my women where she can fantasize and we can talk about it ...If it goes beyond that, I don't know what I would do ...But to say the least, I would not be happy.
A similar things should apply to me as well. There is my wife who loves me like anything. Its my responsibility to give her the love she deserves...As far as fantasizing about other women is concerned, I won't say I didn't. I did...But more than that, I believe I have firm grounding on the reality..and I can handle that. Isn't this what FEW GOOD MEN all about :D
Why Men cheat ?
Interesting question...Men cheat because society, religion(every one-big or small) have given them an upper hand over women all the times. Men are the decision makers in the family, the final say ...etc etc
So, in that process of evolution, they have thought it to be there prerogative to cheat.
Men can't stand their women to be cheating on them, but they think that they can get away with that. It happens with a lot of us ...So its not something which is not new...
My views say that it is an evil on our part when we cheat our woman to someone other.
They are not Men of honor. If we have been bestowed so much from their societies, which we ourselves make, we ought to be more responsible towards it ....and not take it for granted.
I like what you had to say! I mean for a man to fantasize is normal and I cannot say that I would stop him in doing that! I think I like the idea that he is gonna be a fun loving man!!
At the same time Yes a man is a hypocrite that makes him feel that it is alright for him to cheat. Noone in a relationship needs to take one another for granted, Love, relationship and marriage is a partnership!
I don't know if my man would like to know if I am fantasizing over another man! if he does I have to say I need to get rid of him because something is wrong with him! hahahahaha!
I draw my line and HIM trying to act it out with anyone but ME!
Thank Manu!
I came in late for a reason...to read the others...
On a plain normal level fantasizing can harm a relationship cause it makes you want that unachievable....no one fantasizes (i hope) of what they already are...
but to an artist - any kind - musician, painter, sculptor, poet, architect :P (both male and female) fantasizing is NEEDED as it allows to explore realms of life that are beyond...
and to someone who said the he fantazises in his dreams above....
they are different - dream is a subconsious activity that is a reflection of what is not there in the current life - its an apprehension
whereas fantazy is a concious so called "guilttrip" to make it real
Dad and mom arrived..so I have to pick up ..I will reply later...only a thing to add for the time ..i fantasize a lot and i don't cheat..coz m single :D
When you have the love of your life, where is the need to have a fantasy? nurtured fantasies could or might turn into something worse someday...
It only takes 2 people; there is no need for another fictional or real one :)
mmmm as long as he does not fantasize about the same woman constantly it s ok, it s a celebrity woman there is less chance he will have her in his life, now if it s ur best friend he is thinking about and depending what is he thinking about doing it with yes its not cheating but it might be disturbing/awkward!
There are a lot of good guys out there, I just don't know any personally and even tho I would love to bash them in this comment, I cannot.
Fantasies is something that each and everyone of us have at all the time. Some a little more than others. The sad part is that they let it take over their minds and then it is when it leads to crumbling of relationships and marriages. When one takes it upon him/herself to make things go far, they should know that bad becomes the outcome.
Yes, women cheat also, and that makes them low life scum of the earth also.. there is nothing wrong with going to the person and telling them that I want to be with someone else, instead of cheating.
Ok, I went of the suject here, but, what I am saying is that Fantasies are NOT cheating when they are not living them out and having them alllllllllllllllllllllll the time. Then it is a sickness and they need a shot for that. hehe Great post NeNe..
p.s. Jack, Shutup.. I still think your HOT tho
some of ur comments r bigger than d post itself! jeeeeeezz..ppl leave one-liners on my posts! :( ;)
I was waiting for Chan to reply ..... Got some material to fight for .... lol !!!!!!!!
fantasy is sumthing if u want to stop it slams back harder..so don't stop and confess it to ur partner..ya don kno ..ur partner may arrange a threesome for ya...
it is better to confess because as soon as u confess it dont stay as guilty as it was before and u won't have them during sex... rather than u not confessing and while having the greatest time on bed ur moaning that other's name...
lol
i loved this post !! was wondering where u disappeared coz this page wasnt opening before.
first, ur template is very very very nice!! very lovely :)
and fanatasies are not cheating!! everyone has freedom to think...fantasize...its very much human!!
really nice post :)
p.s- although i get really really really jealous if my guy fanatasizes about angelina jolie or anyone. grrrr... X-( :P
hemm...wuts happenin here?
lovely template...
fantasy talks...
hmmm
i hope all of my fantasy's do come true.YEah..all of them.Even having an abesinth one day.
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